listen with your heart not just your ears

Written on March 2, 2009
by: Maricel A. Ciudad

i had brief conversation with a friend today and he said he just had a conversation with a friend and he listened to her and was there for her and after our conversation i had another conversation with a friend. i know my description of the chain of events is a bit dangled but i know you can follow :D

anyway, everybody really needs to be heard. it may be our ups, downs, positive, negative, happiness, sadness, success, failures, just about anything that we go through in life. i myself have moments where my heart just wants to burst out of the things that i feel may it be good or bad that i want to just let it out to somebody who is willing to listen.

more often than not, i get closer and build deeper friendships with people whom i communicate often especially those that i get to have fun and have deeper conversations with at the same time. i know friendships have different levels and in my case, i have friends that i can say that i am more "intimate" with because i can let my hair down to them and vice versa. most of that "intimate" friends are those who don't just have listening ears but listening hearts as well. (i hope you don't get me wrong with the word "intimate or intimacy" here. i define it as having a close connection or deep and close relationship.)

when you listen to your ears alone, it's just not enough because for me, it's just superficial but when you listen along with your heart that's the best listening skill that a person can have. in that way, you will feel someone else' heart too and they will feel that you are sincere. whether they just want to share and need you to just plainly listen to them or they want to hear something that you have to say, listen with your ears and your heart because when you do that, the person will feel it and when it's your time to talk they will do the same.

There is a saying that goes "It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." My version would be "It's not only with listening ears but heart as well that one can hear clearly." ;)

Sharee Dianne's comment:  hmm perfect lagi ni gang.. your best write up so far! maayo kaayo ang finale, lovet! yeah, i'm really glad we became friends gang, our friendship is one of those kinds of friendship where we dont have years to back it up pero it feels like we've been friends for a long time. things just feels much lighter knowing you have someone who you can just pour your heart out and always willing to listen with their heart, gives honest opinions that sometimes are not the ones we wish to hear but we know that the other person is just thinking for our own good. thanks sa atong talks gang and more to come oi. samot na gyud ni puhon oi, unsaon nlng :-)