Gut Feel is always Real (random thoughts on that little voice inside us)

Date written:  July 9, 2010

Maricel A. Ciudad

This realization is based on personal experiences past and present.  I have always believed that there is that voice inside each one of us that is always right but more often than not, we disregard it especially when what we want and what we have in mind is in contrast with what our gut feel says.  I firmly believe that gut feel or the voice inside you, intuition, premonition, instinct or whatever you may call it, is real and it’s innate in each of us.  Some people are sensitive with it and pay attention to what it says.  Some are insensitive and disregard it so it is not activated.  Admittedly, sometimes I am guilty of not paying attention to what my gut feel says and oftentimes, things only make sense when the damage has already been done from not paying attention to the guidance or warnings it was supposed to serve me.  I believe it is a gift.  It’s something that each of us must exercise, listen and obey when it conveys a message because for many times in the past, I can truly say, that gut feel is 100% accurate and real.  It only depends on us if we will follow it and make the most of what it tells us.

Here are some realization and learning that I have gathered in my past experiences about it:

 I have realized that the gut is always right.  When it entails warnings, never have ifs and buts just follow what it says. Never ever ignore it.  It is always right.

-     When you wake up with a dream that feels like it conveys a reality, it is real.  Believe that it’s real because most dreams that seem real are for sure real.  It may not be the same exact thing that will happen in reality but if you feel that it brings meaning, then it must have meaning.  It will make sense when reality sets in.

-     Some people are fake and most of the time, it’s hard to determine who is real or not, so if your instinct is whispering “fake, fake, fake”, don’t argue.  It’s fake.  No more, no less.

-     Don't make excuses for other people's inconsistency.  If what they say and what they do are not in sync, then no benefit of the doubt is necessary.  But in any case you really want to give the benefit, keep eyes wide open and think about this "When in doubt, don't." 

listen with your heart not just your ears

Written on March 2, 2009
by: Maricel A. Ciudad

i had brief conversation with a friend today and he said he just had a conversation with a friend and he listened to her and was there for her and after our conversation i had another conversation with a friend. i know my description of the chain of events is a bit dangled but i know you can follow :D

anyway, everybody really needs to be heard. it may be our ups, downs, positive, negative, happiness, sadness, success, failures, just about anything that we go through in life. i myself have moments where my heart just wants to burst out of the things that i feel may it be good or bad that i want to just let it out to somebody who is willing to listen.

more often than not, i get closer and build deeper friendships with people whom i communicate often especially those that i get to have fun and have deeper conversations with at the same time. i know friendships have different levels and in my case, i have friends that i can say that i am more "intimate" with because i can let my hair down to them and vice versa. most of that "intimate" friends are those who don't just have listening ears but listening hearts as well. (i hope you don't get me wrong with the word "intimate or intimacy" here. i define it as having a close connection or deep and close relationship.)

when you listen to your ears alone, it's just not enough because for me, it's just superficial but when you listen along with your heart that's the best listening skill that a person can have. in that way, you will feel someone else' heart too and they will feel that you are sincere. whether they just want to share and need you to just plainly listen to them or they want to hear something that you have to say, listen with your ears and your heart because when you do that, the person will feel it and when it's your time to talk they will do the same.

There is a saying that goes "It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." My version would be "It's not only with listening ears but heart as well that one can hear clearly." ;)

Sharee Dianne's comment:  hmm perfect lagi ni gang.. your best write up so far! maayo kaayo ang finale, lovet! yeah, i'm really glad we became friends gang, our friendship is one of those kinds of friendship where we dont have years to back it up pero it feels like we've been friends for a long time. things just feels much lighter knowing you have someone who you can just pour your heart out and always willing to listen with their heart, gives honest opinions that sometimes are not the ones we wish to hear but we know that the other person is just thinking for our own good. thanks sa atong talks gang and more to come oi. samot na gyud ni puhon oi, unsaon nlng :-)